From the outside Xmas is a time of joy, getting together with family and friends to celebrate the moment, to have a few drinks, eat too much and exchange gifts and stories.
But there are some of us that don’t look forward to the holiday season. It can be a time for some that is a constant reminder of the people around us that don’t get along, it can be the stress of the expectation of putting on the Xmas feast and pleasing everyone in the room. The anxiety of getting people the perfect gift when we are strapped for cash, or even the reminder that we no longer have the people we love around us to celebrate with.
So how to we go through the holiday season when we are faced with these things? I have put together a little survival guide for a stress free Xmas.
Before heading into the holiday season, reflect and remind yourself what Christmas means to you. Not what it means to Jill or John or the shop owners, but to you.Deep in your core what do you want to get out of Christmas? How does that thought feel for you? Hold onto that thought throughout the planning and it will help create your ideal Christmas.
2. It’s one day
Take pressure off yourself. Remember, in the whole scheme of things, it is one day out of the year. Be kind to yourself.
Christmas is about family and friends and coming together to share the love. So lets do exactly that. Share the love and share the load of Christmas. When everyone pitches in to create a beautiful day it is done with so much less stress.
Take time out just to be present. In the craziness of the day/s take a moment a pause, notice everyone around you. Notice how the kids are playing, people laughing, food cooking. Take time to notice how you feel. Am I enjoying the day? Am I enjoying myself? What can I do for me? By using our observing mind and not our critical mind it helps us come back to the present moment, and relaxes our body and our mind.
At the end of it all, you want to get out of xmas the same as what you want out of everyday. May it be joy, happiness, laughter or/and love.